The Real Game

Am I GAY for getting her an uber? (spend + frame breakdown)

Recently, I've had a few people comment on my last newsletter yesterday about how I got my date an uber home.

On top of that, I've had an extremely wealthy client of mine asking me around how he can keep frame and logistical questions as it pertains to him and his lifestyle (lavish hotels he's in, etc. and not losing frame).

So I thought, let's clarify things and break it down to the psychological TRG level we all know and love.

First, let me reiterate - dating is exceptionally nuanced.

Different girls, different situations, different context.

With all of that said, let me give you the general premise on spend and holding frame/desire, and I'll use Friday as an example.

Full context: I bailed on he same day on tuesday, she double texted me on Thursday to see me again, on Friday I hit her up mid day to go out that same night, she agreed with absolute compliance, and I picked a place 40 minutes from her, and she still agreed absolutely and with enthusiasm and ubered herself there. She was also EARLY on the date, and patiently waited for me in the lobby happily.

Then the date - 1 venue, a few drinks each, happily and enthusiastically came back with me after about 90 minutes, multiple rounds later, I call her an uber.

Do you see the context?

Your most fatal flaw in following dating content is being rigid in your application.

You're missing the CALIBRATION aspect to SEE THE NUANCE.

Look at what I just outlined to you in terms of the evening and her behavior.

Why would I not get her a $25 uber back after all of that?

If you truly think that would destroy her desire, respect, and intrigue for me you need to increase your IQ.

And look at her desire the next day:

Did she ghost me and think I'm a simp over an uber?

Expand your mind on what moves the needle and what actually matters.

Also - it is THE WAY IN WHICH YOU DO THINGS, that makes the most impact on how it is perceived.

If I got her uber and said no like I had so much fun you're amazing let me get you an uber, yeah I'm a bit of a twink.

If I just say yeah I'm beat let me call you an uber (aka time to beat it bitch your time is up) I can do something kind and still be seen as the fucking man she needs the approval of.

Do you get it?

Calibration, nuance, inner game, energy, conversational flow, tension, desire, mystery.

You have to master yourself and your outer game more than anything.

And you have to look at the full picture of how women create perceptions of you.

Not refusing to have an uber for her - you're focusing on the WRONG DETAILS.

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J - TRG

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what guarantees a fantastic date, start to finish (receipts)

Last night, I went out with a girl from Hinge that I recently bailed on (last email).

Same day made plans because my moved another girl to Sunday for various reasons, so we went out.

1 venue, back to mine in 90 min, extremely high desire, 25yo fit blonde.

So, how?

First, power leverage and abundance.

Bailing earlier in the week, inducing fomo with my IG, and not caring had her desire skyrocket pre-date.

Yes - her pre-date desire MATTERS, it's not just about what happens on the date.

Logistics - perfect and primed.

The place was a minute down the road from me, had a great downstairs bar lounge situation where the seating was basically beach beds, with a rooftop to combine 2 venues into 1 without having to go anywhere.

Rooftop had insane views and more of these day bed couches, unbelievably elite for creating desire.

Because I had the ability to sit/lay beside her, more touch could build more desire.

We were on the couch post HU and I asked her when she knew she wanted to.

Her answer "I don't normally do this on the first date, but when we were making out on the roof."

First off, sure you don't (or maybe it's true and I just TRGed her).

Secondly, proximity and some escalation in the right setting can get her to that level of desire.

Long story short, logistics matter a ton because girls are very much impacted on their surroundings and the vibe.

Location affects vibe directly.

Then on the date, I'm matching energies, incredibly light and absurd and sprinkling in retardation.

I didn't tease her much TBH, because she was so chill it would've been autistic.

We just had a really chill time and it progressed from there.

Guys - dating should be fun, and easy.

It should not be a chore, or a struggle, or something that causes you anxiety.

If you master this stuff, your quality of life will 100x multiply, I promise.

J - TRG

Leverage is how my 1-1 coaching client, who's almost 60 years old, has women like this in his life who are insatiably into him (to clearly show you it's not just me because of me being me)

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leverage creates submission, here's how (screenshot)

You will NEVER have a woman submit to you if she is not abundantly clear on the amount of leverage you have over her.

Literally, zero.

It is a game of power in getting the best or worst behavior from a woman.

NOT a game of love and romance, re-program your mind.

Obvious context - made plans with her on Tuesday night, my dinner did in fact get pushed back, so I told her let's rain check.

As a result of my LEVERAGE, she double texted ME to reschedule even though I was the one that bailed.

And yes - she has high value in the marketplace not some behemoth (24 yo blonde in shape etc).

So let me breakdown how I attained the leverage that generates women pursuing me.

Specifically in this instance of meeting a girl online

1 - Imagery.

My images display leverage not because of my face, but because of how they are taken.

The venue, the attire, the body language, the actual lighting and appearance of the images, etc.

In modern dating, good images give leverage, no doubt about it.

Without knowing ANYTHING about what you bring to the table, you INSTANTLY have perceived value with good images.

2 - Texting.

The manner in which I communicate over text INCREASES perceived leverage.

Because how you communicate and interact molds her perception of your power, or lack their off.

Simple easy emotional stimulating texting = he has power which means leverage.

3 - Behavior in times of "pressure"

More specifically, how I handled our plans.

I didn't mean to reschedule, but I did in fact had to.

And when I did reschedule, I didn't rush to see her again or make plans again.

I literally left her on read after I rain checked, and went about my day.

What does this do?

He's powerful and busy = leverage.

4 - Instagram

Crucial in modern dating for perceived leverage.

In the days after, I posted some stories and lived my life.

Paying no regard to her and giving her fomo = leverage.

When you combine everything, you're lethal, and women chase you and ignore the millions of men chasing them.

J - TRG

how the power dynamics SHIFT with women

From the second you start interacting with women, all she thinks is this guy wants to crack me open.

Truly and genuinely, they are on guard.

Here is EXACTLY how the dynamic shifts in real time.

This is been top of mind as I've been interacting with new women for the first time and it's extremely noticeable.

From the SECOND you start texting and interacting on the first impression, it's a dance of emotions.

From her perspective it's - what's his vibe, does he make me feel things, can he captivate my state, is it interesting and intriguing and emotionally stimulating.

From your perspective it has to be - this is brutally who I am, and I don't care.

Once the INITIAL hook has landed and she meets up with you, it changes.

From her POV it goes from intrigue to sometimes guarded, while probing.

Why?

She's super on guard about the possibility of sex, now that you're right in front of her.

GIVEN THAT, and the proximity she has to vulnerability, her guard often raises again (shit tests).

During this time on the first date pre-sex, you have to make her feel on such an internal level that you don't care about having sex with her.

Because it is genuinely the only way she will lower her guard and allow herself to be in the moment, which allows for emotions, which allows for desire.

We do that by creating emotions, lala land, changing states, not being logical, etc.

Once they TRULY FEEL (this is crucial, it can't be they can't feel from you imitating lines, it has to be on an energetic level) that you don't care about having sex with them, then the tables turn.

Then they lower their guard, then they get turned on, then they feel comfortable you're normal, then it happens.

How we truly make them feel this way is by genuinely being this way - there is no gimmick or tactic, and we don't use deception or manipulation.

We truly work on ourselves to the point where we have done the inner work, our confidence and aura oozes out, and we have zero attachment to the outcome.

Then, everything becomes easy.

Because if you get a shit test, she can leave, and you truly don't care.

The only path to mastery is with yourself, the inner work, the inner game.

It's why it is THE FOUNDATION of my entire program that gets men transformative dating results.

I break my entire system down thoroughly in this 55 minute video, watch it here - https://youtu.be/_dKNrqqpbwc

J - TRG

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