A practical, research-informed guide that teaches a fast, repeatable four-step script couples can use mid-argument to de-escalate in under two minutes. Includes step-by-step training, timed drills, annotated dialogues, repair-and-reconnect rituals, variations for common triggers, text/long-distance scripts, troubleshooting for defensiveness, stonewalling, and explosive reactivity, plus progress tracking and a 14-day practice plan