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@therealgame·23h

The origin of your anxiety/insecurity with women

Think about how differently you would behave towards women if:

-you had zero approach anxiety

-you genuinely did not care about the outcome AT ALL

-you had zero fear with an interaction going south

-you had zero worry about her perception of you

-you felt zero NEED to have her

This is what's possible on the other side of inner work

And if you REMOVE your anxiety and insecurities, you can genuinely operate in this fashion.

So the question is - where does it stem from.

Without making this a literal novel about the conscious vs subconscious, beliefs, perceptions, worldviews, mental models, and what drives human behavior - let me give you this much.

The origin of your anxieties and insecurities with women starts and ends with you.

Not the dating market, not hypergamy, not that one girl you really want who is ghosting you.

The origin actually stems much deeper and much older.

When you started growing up in life, you were met with pivotal moments and experiences that defined the lens of which you perceive reality through.

Parents, friends, sports, school, media consumption, etc.

Those experiences, for better or for worse, formed your lens which forms your beliefs which forms your mental model of decision making which forms your reality.

Let me give you a very simple example:

Let's say you grew up in a divorced household from the time you were 10.

You saw consistent fighting between your parents, your mom bad mouthed your dad, your dad became distant, let's just say.

And let's just say that at one point in the heat of frustration your father blamed you for the divorce.

Your subconscious mind stores this experience because of the emotional resonance attached, and it molds your perception on reality.

From that moment on your perception now SHIFTED towards being the problem with the things you care about the most - literally.

Which creates feelings of inadequacies, low confidence and self esteem, etc.

Those attributes that were created from this experience will fester into all areas of life, especially women.

Now, you see a beautiful girl and think, "She'll never like me."

And as a result?

You take no action, your state is terrible, your dating life sucks, and you don't know why.

Voila.

Everything is connected.

If you want to HEAL and ASCEND your patterns, beliefs, and conditioning that is leading you to the dating life you currently have so you can effortlessly attract women, click here - https://therealgame.kinsta.cloud/cp2/

J - The Real Game

@therealgame·1d

"But J, when should I be nice?"

What a classic question.

When guys start to understand reality and the veil is lifted from their eyes on true female nature, this question always arises.

But when should I be nice?

Surely I can't be a dick or a tyrant 24/7?

When is it appropriate, and what about my frame?

Great question!

Here is the general framework.

These are things you genuinely should never be doing, on a STR or a LTR:

-undeserved gifts or acts of service

-verbal compliments on appearance

-putting in a disproportionate amount of effort than she is

-prioritizing her over yourself

Now in terms of WHEN you should actually be nice, the answer isn't black and white.

For one, this is all very nuanced, and your definition of being nice is probably actually being gay.

Being nice to me is spending time with her, being affectionate, verbal validation around her behavior, etc.

That is more or less the extent of it.

She puts in effort, verbally affirm it's good behavior - this is being nice.

She wants to spend time with me, and I allow it because her behavior has been good - this is being nice.

The entire perception of being nice is completely subjective based on her conditioning.

THIS STILL DOES NOT MEAN that when I'm spending time with her, I fail shit tests and go easy on her in the name of being nice.

Never.

You always need your "guns" pointed at her in a metaphorical sense.

I'm not kidding, in your moments of being the most sweet, say cuddling each other right after sex, is the exact moment you can expect her to try and slip a fast one on you.

This is how women operate to their core.

And you must always be ready.

And your fear about her losing interest because you're NOT being nice?

You don't understand women.

Because women stay with men because of power dynamics - not niceness.

Learn the real game.

J - TRG

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@therealgame·2d

new coaching client testimonial talking about his experience inside my program

He describes how drastically his dating life, and life as a whole, has changed since joining: From the Friend Zone to a Date in 24 Hours: Coaching Transformation https://youtu.be/s7sDmI6Cspg

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@therealgame·2d

the brutal reality of female desire (screenshot)

Women will always prioritize and pursue the guy that is clearly above them and less emotionally invested than they are.

Let me show you a clear cut example of this.

I've been seeing this girl casually for a few weeks, and have made it explicitly clear I'm not dating seriously right now.

Does this stop her or other women? Of course not.

If anything, it INCREASES their want.

So she tells me when I saw her on Tuesday that she had a date lined up for Sunday.

Some guy that wants to take her seriously and flew in from another state (sigh).

Then she texts me this last night, as she knew I was with another girl:

What's so mindblowing about women is this girl wants to settle down, she's told me.

She is meeting high value guys with businesses and careers that also want to settle down, and they're pursuing her to do so.

But who is she choosing to sleep with?

Who is she choosing to spend time with?

So much so that she doesn't want to see ANY OTHER GUY 2 weeks in, while I'm actively seeing other women.

The question is, why?

There is no equality in love, romance, attraction, desire, dating.

There is always an A side and a B side.

If you pursue directly and deliberately, with a clear emotional investment, you instantly categorize yourself as the B side and her the A.

When that happens, she can't want you.

When you do the opposite the right way, she is instantly B and desires you, going against all logic and reason.

This is how you can reverse engineer women if you understand their psychology.

Learn the real game.

J - TRG

@therealgame·3d

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Images are crucial. Listen below (43yo, south America).

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@therealgame·3d

use every opportunity to slam her (story time)

So I'm with one of my girls last night, but before she actually came over, this happened.

Long story short - had plans for 830, she texted me she got off earlier than expected around 630, and I said a bit earlier is fine but I'm not home ATM.

Tell me how she was still late to our agreed upon time?

She gets off 2 hours earlier than planned, lives 5 min from me, and is still late - I'm not kidding.

See the exchange below:

So I'm not answering, just watching tv basically waiting for her weasel ass to be here, and she calls me.

So I pick up and I'm like what

And she's like omg are you mad at me

And I'm like how do you still find a way to be late when you get off 2 hours earlier than expected - verbatim

She starts laughing, of course

Then after a few more seconds of slam downs I hang up

She calls me back

I ask her if she forgot her car this time

She laughs again and I say ok see you soon and hang up again

Then when she gets here, hiroshima

I tell her she can't handle life itself, and is lost at sea

And it's remarkable how she is still alive

She laughs and agrees, then we crack

Do you get it?

My INSTINCTUAL reaction is to smoke her and own it

Yours is probably to give her grace and be kind and sweet to her

What actually creates desire?

What actually has her respecting you MORE?

Stop babying women - they fucking it.

Learn the real game.

J - The Real Game

@therealgame·5d

coaching clients are crushing the apps and closing in 2026, and so can you.

This client in particular is 56 years old, the TRG system is unbiased because it's rooted in female psychology.

To learn more and see if we're a good fit to work together, click here - https://therealgame.kinsta.cloud/cp2/

@therealgame·5d

THIS is flirting, not anything else (Screenshot)

Guys get flirting so wrong because guys think logically and make assumptions based on media and entertainment.

In movies, guys flirt by saying flirty things, and the girls sleep with them.

It's some one liner that magically gets her horny and so you try those same witty lines and get confused when it doesn't work.

You also think logically about life and apply that same mental model to flirting.

Which means, if you want to get her aroused and into you, speak about arousal and being into each other.

This looks like compliments, or wit about intimacy, etc.

It literally all falls flat.

Let me show you actual flirting, and explain why this works and that doesn't:

Yes, this is high level elite game with women and it's the most retarded thing you've ever seen - correct.

This is flirting because of these primary factors:

-I am making fun of her

-I am beyond low effort

-I show I'm not afraid to offend her

What do these trigger?

Power.

He clearly has other options, clearly doesn't need to impress or woo me because of it, and therefore I want him.

What does DIRECT flirting communicate?

He wants me clearly, which must mean he doesn't have other options and is eager/desperate, therefore I don't want him.

You MUST learn how women ACTUALLY interpret reality and your actions.

J - The Real Game

P.S. New Youtube: How to Grow Your Career Without Sacrificing Your Dating Life

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@therealgame·5d

why she flaked, and how to fix it

For most guys, women flaking is part of their life.

They're used to it, and truthfully expect it.

It doesn't have to be this way, so let me help you unpack why it's actually happening and how to (largely) fix it.

Identifying Why:

Women flake because they're lacking certain emotional aspects - simply put.

Why guys get so confused on this is because they don't understand women at a truly deep level.

Us men have little to no anxiety or worry about meeting up with a woman.

And we assume, because we're both "equal adults" women have the same perspective.

Couldn't be farther from the truth.

Let's put our uncertainty on first dates at a 1-2/10.

Hers?

Easily a 7-10/10 generally speaking.

Why?

Women are driven by emotion, which causes mental rumination.

They will think about a text you sent for 10 hours - I'm not exaggerating.

This leads them to constantly talking themselves out of things, second guessing, and flaking.

UNLESS - we provide so much certainty and put them in such a great state that we eliminate this, which most men don't.

Certainty over them having a good time, being comfortable with you, knowing it'll be fun and exciting, knowing she'll be attracted and into you, etc.

The list is never ending.

The Fix:

First, we need some sort of social presence, and ideally, an optimized one.

It's crucial that she can see you're a normal person, have pictures, some people know you, etc.

Second, our cadence of making plans.

If you go straight to plan setting, yeah you're getting flaked on.

If you wait too long, yeah you're getting flaked on.

The first doesn't provide any certainty, the second provides uncertainty that you can lead - see the dance?

Third, our way of which we communicate via texting.

If we only send written texts, probably getting flaked on.

If we don't stimulate emotions, getting flaked on.

If we seem eager, we're getting flaked on.

The good news - all of this is fixable, you just need to change your way of dating and your strategy.

There are of course higher levels to this and the game, but these will help you.

Learn all of them here - https://therealgame.kinsta.cloud/h/

J - The Real Game

@therealgame·6d

The only INTERNAL STATE that creates desire

How you move through the world is your frequency that attracts like-frequencies into it.

Simply put: if you're sad you will attract more sadness.

Including but not limited to, circumstances, people, women, etc.

If you're carefree, you will attract new circumstances and opportunities, and much more.

This is true in every aspect of life, but how does it pertain to women and dating?

The first question to ask yourself is what do you want?

It's shocking how few people (including hyper intelligent and successful people) don't ask themselves this question in regards to women.

They typically do in business, but for some reason when it comes to women, they take a mindset of at the mercy of circumstances and not creating reality, which is outrageous.

So I repeat, what do you want?

1 girl? 3? What do they look like? How old? How do they treat you?

There are no limits here, and any belief or thought that deters you from your ideal outcome is a limiting belief we have to destroy.

Let's say for this example you want a solid girlfriend.

You want somebody that supports you, is attractive, and can handle her own.

I'm sure just READING THAT LINE brought limiting beliefs, hesitations, excuses, and reasons as to why it would be unlikely to attain that - this is how deep and integral the inner work truly is.

Nonetheless, that's what you want in this example.

First and foremost, we have to start embodying the man that already has this girl.

How is your confidence?

Are you walking differently?

Posture?

Tonality?

Outlook on life changed?

Do you feel more whole?

Exactly.

Once you fully embody YOU that has what you want PRIOR to seeing it externally, you are at the frequency to attain it.

When you're at the frequency - you attract it, simple.

In the process of getting to this point, there are many obstacles and inner work you must do.

Including but not limited to: old conditioning, limiting beliefs, traumas, etc.

Because the second you think about the outcome, you don't feel POWER.

You feel anxious, doubtful, analyzing how it won't happen, etc.

Those are all INDICATORS, you have to do inner work.

Inner work can allow you to embody that guy NOW, unlocking whatever you want with women.

If you want to work intimately with me in a 1-1 capacity to do all of the above, and have it stick for life, click here - https://therealgame.kinsta.cloud/cp2/

Just imagine how differently life could be when you really get this stuff...

J - The Real Game