Escape the Attachment Loop — A Psychoanalytic & Buddhist Toolkit by Ba Yi Xuan Zhe (罢易玄者)
Part I: Why You Become Obsessed — scarcity, desire, structural lack, childhood deprivation Part II: Why Fantasy Feels More Powerful Than Reality — projection, imagined futures, narcissistic investment Part III: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Pain — repetition compulsion, unconscious relational patterns Part IV: Why Attachment Creates Suffering — Buddhist framework, Three Poisons, impermanence Part V: How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself — fantasy deconstruction, emotional regulation, non-attachment
Included: 5 chapters · 6 worksheets · reflection prompts · grounding exercises · emotional regulation practices
This toolkit helps you understand why you become emotionally trapped, what keeps fantasy alive, and how to loosen compulsive attachment — so you can care deeply, love consciously, and maintain emotional autonomy.