A fill-in template that helps you turn blame-heavy arguments into one concrete request so the conversation stays on one issue instead of spiraling into attack and escalation.

• This template is a reusable frame for turning blame-heavy phrases into one calm, clear, answerable ask. It guides you from what was said and felt in the heat of the moment to what actually needs to be communicated.

• For couples who keep getting pulled into the same arguments and want a calmer way to communicate.

• After using it, you will be able to bring up issues without turning them into character attacks, and you will have a simple way to stay focused on what needs to be said.

• So instead of global statements and repeated conflicts, you’ll learn how to focus on one issue at a time and express it in a way that can be heard, answered, and worked with.