She used to want you. What changed?

Maybe sex happens far less often than it used to. Maybe you’re nearly always the one who initiates. Maybe rejection now feels like more than “not tonight.”

Is she still attracted to you? Has her sex drive disappeared? Have you become roommates?

How to Make Her Want You Again is an in depth practical, research-informed guide for men who want to understand what has changed in their relationship - and what they can realistically do about it.

You’ll learn how to understand changing desire, recognise pressure-and-pursuit cycles, handle rejection without pretending it doesn’t hurt, rebuild safer affection, improve foreplay and initiation, communicate better about sex, recognise the effects of stress, pain, medication, parenthood and menopause, rebuild attraction and novelty, and navigate genuine differences in desire.

At the heart of the book is the six-part D.E.S.I.R.E. framework: Discover Before You Fix; Examine the Emotional Climate; Stop Pressure and Pursuit Cycles; Invest in Intimacy Before Intercourse; Recognise What Her Desire Is Responding To; Experiment, Communicate and Evolve.

This is not a book about manipulating women or earning sex through better behaviour.

Her desire cannot be demanded. Your hurt does not have to be dismissed.

You cannot manufacture another person’s desire. But you can understand it better, improve the relationship around it, and find out what is really happening between you.

Don’t learn women. Learn her.