The Newborn Visitor Boundaries Kit is a printable 14-page PDF for expecting and new parents who want visits to happen on their terms, kindly. Decide your visiting preferences once, then copy ready-made messages into your phone, so you’re not working out what to say at the door, tired, with a baby in your arms.

What’s inside:

• A 15-minute quick start
• A visitor preferences worksheet: timing, who comes first, visit length, hands, holding the baby, photos
• A visit plan with protected rest time
• 10 ready-to-send messages, from “before the baby arrives” to “help instead of a visit”
• Scripts for tricky moments: parents and in-laws, unannounced visits, holding the baby, illness, overstaying, unsolicited advice
• A partner conversation guide and a cut-out visitor lead card
• A helpful visitor list for the fridge, two door signs, a help offers log and a weekly check-in

Print it, or copy the scripts straight from the PDF on your phone.

This kit helps you communicate the preferences you choose. It isn’t medical advice. For health questions, including illness, vaccinations or when your baby can be around other people, please ask your doctor, midwife or health visitor.