I used to wonder why I kept attracting the wrong men. Turns out, I was the common denominator. Not because I was the problem — but because I was tolerating things that were beneath me.

Here are 5 things I stopped doing:

1. Texting first every single time

If he's interested, he'll reach out. Period. I stopped chasing and started noticing who was actually pursuing me.

2. Ignoring red flags because he was "fine"

Attractive ≠ good for you. I started paying attention to how men made me feel, not just how they looked.

3. Being available 24/7

I got busy with my own life — gym, friends, goals. Suddenly the right ones started showing up because I wasn't desperate for attention.

4. Explaining my standards

The right man won't need a PowerPoint on why you deserve respect. I stopped negotiating my non-negotiables.

5. Staying in "almost" relationships

If it's not a clear yes, it's a no. I freed up space for someone who actually wanted to be with me.

The shift happened when I realized: you attract what you tolerate.

I write about this every week inside Soft Girl Society. Real talk on modern dating for women who refuse to settle. 💕