I spent the last few years watching people in their 20s make huge life calls — quitting jobs, moving countries, staying in relationships too long — and almost none of them used any actual method. They just waited to "feel ready."

Here's the problem: feelings are a lagging indicator. By the time a decision feels obviously right, you've usually already lost the optionality that made it a good decision in the first place. The best career move I ever watched someone make felt terrifying right up until the day they made it.

A better approach I've been using with people: for any big decision, write down (1) the actual reversible cost if you're wrong, (2) what you're optimizing for in 5 years vs. 5 months, and (3) who in your life has made this exact call before and what happened to them. Most people skip step 3 entirely — they ask their friends (who haven't done it) instead of finding someone who has.

I started Station D to write these breakdowns weekly — real decision frameworks for career, money, and relationship calls in your 20s, not generic motivational stuff. If that's useful to you, it's linked in my profile.