The Real Game

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Top rated dating coach who's helped thousands of men improve their dating lives and become high value men. Teaching men the hidden secrets...
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does TRG only work on party girls?


I got a comment on a recent youtube video I filmed and it made me laugh my ass off.


And actually sparked the idea to elaborate on it because it's a great thing to clarify, especially given how nuanced dating is.


So I recently made a video about finding the sweet spot between nice guy and asshole with women.


The premise being, you need to be flexible. Playful yet masculine.


And this is the comment I received, and let me elaborate on my response:


Some people may see my content and the way I preach my philosophy around women, dating, behavior, etc. and think that only works on certain girls.


Or only works short term, etc.


And to extra clarify why this isn't the case, I've had multiple women in long term relationships propose to me/give me ultimatums about getting married, which ended 2 of the relationships.


So to think TRG isn't effective in creating love/bonds/connections is psychotic, and here is why.


Bonds, loyalty, submission, etc. are created entirely differently between men and women.


And I'm talking so far beyond just a casual hook up.


I'm talking having a girl look you in your eyes and say she would kill somebody for you and not be joking (I've had this happen to me).


And so how did she (and others) get to such an insane point of long term desire?


It's because on a deep primal level all women are the same.


And all women build bonds differently than men do.


We build long term bonds from a more logical frame of mind.


They build them through emotional feelings.


Feelings of power and superiority that we possess as men gives them feelings of comfort, stability, attraction, desire.


Feelings of excitement and mystery give them feelings of arousal, joy, purpose.


Those feelings in us would give us anxiety, discomfort, no attraction etc.


Do you see?


How we get them to a peak state of submission and love and desire for us is entirely different than how they get us there for them.


And there in lies the confusion for 99% of men that can't see past their own psychology.


​Learn the real game, and free your mind.​


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no tension, no desire


1-1 clients text me in real time to calibrate themselves with their responses and ways of communicating with women


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she left her first date for me (story time)


Who remembers this girl from a recent newsletter that said they were busy and to try again next weekend?


Well, she's back.


So I randomly decide to go to this 5 star expensive restaurant after the gym last night.


After I check in I go to the bathroom, and as I'm going, I see a girl on a date with a guy that looked just like her.


Mind you, I've never met her so I wasn't certain, but I thought it was her.


Obviously, I said nothing, and of course I get a text from her a few hours later:


I didn't even respond to the first text, just reacted, so of course she double texted me.


Obviously, miserable on her date and thinking about me the entire time because I triggered primal desire by walking away and this guy is taking her to a 5 star very expensive first date dinner.


Then:


I sent her a pic of my place and said that, and she keep reiterating how terrible the date is going, because why else would she be texting me.


So I invite her off, honestly just to see if this would happen, and she calls me the second the date ends.


We talked for roughly 15 minutes, I gave her a ridiculous amount of shit about the date, her behavior, being difficult, wishing it was me on the date, you name it.


I cooked her hibachi style while simultaneously laughing my ass off because this is hilarious.


Of course, she's getting aroused by the second.


At the end of the call she decides to of course, come over.


First time meeting her, straight over, after she LITERALLY was just on a first date where the guy flew in from across the country (not joking), drove 2+ hours, and spent easily $400+ on her.


And all he got was a hug.


She even pulled up the texts he was sending her and showed them to me.


Super nice and excited, accommodating, high effort, texted her IMMEDIATELY when he got home saying it was so much fun and he wants to see her again soon.


While I'm laying pipe and staring at his texts.


Imagine?


You guys have to learn super super crucial lessons from this, so this doesn't happen to you.


First, the more effort you put in the less they respect you and look for reasons to DQ you.


His spend, his texting, his accommodating.


She told me she knew it was over 5 min in, but she actually knew way before that because of his behavior (she even tried to cancel last minute but felt bad).


Second, walking away creates more primal desire than any first date ever could.


Would she have chased me and called me if I didn't walk away? Never.


Third, go to lala land.


She told me they argued about politics on the date - WTF?


He works in politics and was passionate about it apparently, what a nuclear mistake to her state.


Fourth, women are ruthless to men like this.


She literally told me she wished we went to the bathroom mid date and fucked.


I'm not exaggerating.


ZERO REGARD FOR HIS TIME/SPEND/ATTENTION/EFFORT.


Zero.


Because it all boils down to how you make them feel and nothing else matters.


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Hahaha I love it!!

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seeing the guys win fulfills my life


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do you need an instagram for modern dating?


Let's breakdown the brutal truth as we always do.


Do you NEED a good instagram in modern dating?


Short answer - yes, and here's the why + the nuance.


The nuance: for women over 40, it's not required.


They still PREFER you do, absolutely.


But REQUIRED? To date some 45 year old? No.


Now if you care AT ALL about the quality of the women you're dating and their age, then you absolutely do and here is why.


Modern dating has shifted what women look for in value.


In present day, women have more options and more financial security than they previously did.


Meaning - the criteria of which they select from has increased.


It's no longer I need this boring ass dude to help me survive - no.


They can be more selective because basic means have been met.


Meaning, they now look more than ever before at social proof, status, leverage, etc.


Think of it this way, there's guy A and guy B.


They both approach the same cute girl, or both match with the same girl online.


Both are good at texting etc. and she's intrigued by both.


Guy A - no instagram or it's very poorly optimized.


Guy B - optimized instagram (not saying famous BY ANY MEANS, just optimized)


Who do you think she's going to be MORE into?


Obviously Guy B that has an instagram that shows status, social proof, leverage, etc.


She will have 1000x more certainty and confidence that she is going to like that guy and be comfortable around him - it's not even close.


So if you're wanting to date attractive women in modern dating, you are asking to fail without a good IG.


And it's entirely in your hands to do, and can literally take you 1 day of your life.


​If you want to learn about my 1 day Instagram and personal branding overhauls I do in Los Angeles, click here -


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P.S. new important youtube to watch: Why She Suddenly Went Cold (And How To Fix It)


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the state you date in makes ALL the difference


Your state equals your dating life.


The place you are at INTERNALLY completely determines your thoughts, perceptions, beliefs, actions, behaviors, temperament, etc.


The list goes on.


Long story short - it affects EVERYTHING.


Which is why the work I do with my clients goes so far beyond just some dating lines.


Precisely why most guys actually increase their income in the program as well.


This is a message I got from a 1-1 coaching client this AM - been in my 1-1 program about 6 weeks:


So the question becomes, why and how.


Why does state change dating/how women respond to you, and how to accomplish it.


The WHY:


Women respond to energy, they are reflective mirrors to our state.


Our state is how we FEEL - about us, dating, life, etc.


Great state = unlimited energy = women are drawn to you.


It's a primal response, and they can't help it.


The HOW:


Clear out your subconscious completely, and reprogram your identity.


All of your traumas, doubts, worries, fears, past experiences - gone.


Nonexistent.


Then the new identity comes in.


Bold, carefree, liberated from perceptions of others, masculine, powerful, strong, you fucking name it.


Then you act differently, and say different things, but they're GENUINE.


They are not ME you are imitating.


That's a superpower, that changes your life.


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early signs I'm going to hate her (deep level game)


When I talk to new women and vet them, I am ALWAYS looking for early signs of misconduct.


Early signs she we're not going to get along, she'll cause me a headache, I won't enjoy her, she doesn't deserve any of my attention/time/money, etc.


The list goes on that I vet for.


This is the luxury of generating abundance, I can be more strict with who I spend my time with and only demand the best behavior.


For example, if she is causing unnecessary friction pre first date (or any date) I'm out.


As shown:


If I suggest a place, and she suggests a different place, I'm never talking to her again.


If I tell her to come here and she wants me to go there, I'm gone.


And don't get me wrong - can you meet in the middle and still get your desired outcome/go out with her, absolutely.


I just don't give a shit because I built a factory.


We set up a facetime and she forgets? Adios.


The list goes on.


There's also an on-date list.


And I vet women pre, on, and post date by specifically saying things or making certain jokes to test their coolness.


This is super important to get a read on this girl.


If I make a joke that's offensive, let's say 4/10 on the offensive scale, and she gets offended or confronts me, I'm never talking to you again.


You suck ass and are going to try and tame me and control me and I won't tolerate it.


But imagine I don't do this.


I play it safe, I never say anything offensive to get a gauge on their personality, I end up getting into a relationship with them, and finally I let my personality come out months or years later, and it's always a problem.


THIS IS THE REALITY OF MOST MEN.


You play it safe to be liked, you never take risks, you never let your personality out.


Then, weeks later, it slips out because of course it does, and she leaves or causes you headaches.


FFUUUUCKKKK THAT.


Abundance gives you the leverage to walk and date on your own terms and be with women who love you for you.


It's basically the equivalent of fuck you money.


​Get fuck you money with women.​


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Also, 1-1 coaching clients winning.​


You have no idea how much inner work is necessary and the impact it can have it goes beyond all of your conscious awareness.


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battles of frame are never ending, do this


First, new youtube banger - The Red Flags You Ignore When She’s Your Type


Now - frame battles.


Think of it this way.


Our frame is the road we are traveling to get our desired outcome.


Our desired outcome typically is seeing them in person, escalating, relationships, etc.


We walk this path by how we behave.


When a guy has strong frame, he is relatively firm in his way of behaving to attain the outcome.


Women, will ALWAYS try to get you to walk their path (their frame).


It is our JOB to literally tell them no, this is the path.


And they mask their distractions and redirections in very logical and reasonable ways, which is why for men that don't have a super heightened perspective on the power games that are constantly evolving, they miss it.


They take it logically, see no harm in it, and now are on their path.


This could be rescheduling, this could be disappearing, this could be leveraging sex and nudes.


Why do women do this?


Addicted to emotion, vying for power, entertainment, highly anxious and uncertain and want to see behavioral reassurance.


And so as it boils down to female psychology, it is simply inevitable that they will try to get us out of our masculine frame of how the power dynamics are.


Your best friend is a heightened perspective to see these things happening a mile away, and playfully say no 🙂 with a smile on your face!


J - The Real Game