Most men who say they “can’t find a good woman” are not looking.

They are protecting themselves.

As long as she has to be perfect — the face, the past, the job, the timing — you never have to risk looking average in public. You never have to get rejected. You never have to admit your Tuesday is empty.

I used to think I had high standards. I had a costume list. Height. Job. Zero history. A personality that matched a movie I liked at 19.

Meanwhile my life had no spine. Sleep was random. Friends were other men who also “couldn’t find anyone.” Dates felt like interviews I was conducting from a couch.

Here is the ugly part: a high-quality woman would have walked into that life and left. Not because she was shallow. Because there was nothing to join.

The fix is not “lower your standards.” Keep 3 real non-negotiables. Drop the fantasy. Then become obviously in motion — body, money, calendar, how you talk.

Date from a full life. Do not date to rescue an empty one.

If that stings, good. Do the work this week anyway.