You are the partner who notices, reminds, redoes and is worn out by it. This is a five-week workbook for the non-ADHD partner: pick one task, say one clear thing about it, and build one small shared system that does not depend on you reminding.

One printable PDF, 49 pages, one worksheet an evening. Week 1 Name the Load: a one-page “ADHD is / is not” primer (time blindness, working memory, starting tasks) and what the load costs you. Week 2 Change the Conversation: five ready-made scripts for the recurring fights (chores, money, forgetting, time and lateness, “you don’t listen”), each with the snag, an opening line, a redirect and what to ask for, plus all of them on one page. Week 3 Ask for a Concrete Agreement: one task, one owner, and who does the reminding and follow-up. Week 4 Try a Small Shared System: a one-week starter and a 20-minute weekly check-in agenda. Week 5 Keep the System Shared: review, adjust, overloaded weeks, and questions to ask a couples therapist or ADHD coach.

15 worksheets in all, three with a column your partner fills in, and a Partner page you can hand them. Weeks 1 and 2 you do alone. No blame on either partner, no diagnosis, no medication advice. A red-flags box on page 2 says when to see a therapist first. Full refund within 7 days.