Ownkin is an AI girlfriend or boyfriend that’s yours. Pick their look, outfits and personality. See everything they remember and forget anything you want. It runs on your own ~$5/month server with your own AI key, so your chats stay on your server, apart from the AI provider you choose to generate replies.

What you get:

• The Ownkin app plus a one-command installer for an Ubuntu VPS (auto HTTPS)
• Passkey sign-in (Face ID, Touch ID, fingerprint or Windows Hello), encrypted with a recovery key
• Memory you can see and edit, outfits, generated portraits, optional voice calls (xAI key)
• Nightly backups on your server
• A step-by-step buyer guide, updates and support chat

You’ll also need: a VPS with 2 vCPU / 4 GB RAM (~$5-12/mo), a domain with two DNS records, and an AI provider key: OpenRouter (default), OpenAI, Anthropic or any OpenAI-compatible API (pay as you go; voice, memory search and the cost tracker use OpenRouter). 18+ only. 14-day install guarantee.