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Last nights call was such an important topic!

You guys who didn’t come on missed out. Here’s the recording:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fXYTRbhW3mGzHaFD_oeZn2vEwH3C5TCa/view

It's the end of the week and one thing I want you to do before the weekend takes over completely.

Write down, even just in your notes app, one way you showed up for yourself this week that you would not have done six months ago. Not the biggest thing, not the most impressive thing, just something real and honest that reflects growth you can actually feel even if nobody else can see it!!

The reason this is worth doing consistently is that your brain does not automatically track progress the way it tracks failure. You have to point it in that direction deliberately otherwise it will always present you with a more discouraging version of where you are than the reality warrants.

You grew this week in some way. Find it, name it, give it the thirty seconds of acknowledgment it deserves before you move on.

What is yours?

The call is back tomorrow night and I want you to decide what we go deep on together.

3 completely different topics below, drop your number in the comments to vote and the winning topic goes live tomorrow at 6pm UK / 7pm CET.

Vote below, poll closes tonight and the winner gets announced in the morning!

I want to be honest with you all because you deserve that more than you deserve a polished post that pretends the last couple of weeks didn't happen.

I have been inactive and I am sorry for that. A lot has been going on behind the scenes, more than I can fully get into right now, and it has pulled my attention away from this space in a way that I did not intend and do not take lightly. This community matters to me genuinely and showing up for it consistently is something I take seriously, which is exactly why I want to acknowledge the gap rather than just quietly reappear and move on.

I am back now and I am showing up fully. Thank you to everyone who stuck around. That means more than you know.

Let's have a great week!!

Life will keep throwing you things, but God knows you can handle it. Even if you're going through something bad now and you feel stuck, just know, everything is going to be so much better. Just keep moving forwards!

There is a reason the most important thing on your list is usually the last thing you get to and it is not because you ran out of time. It is because your brain unconsciously schedules the difficult, high stakes work last as a form of avoidance that feels organised and responsible from the outside.

You clear the small tasks first because completing them releases dopamine and feels like progress. Meanwhile the one thing that would actually move your life forward sits at the bottom of the list waiting for a version of you with more time, more energy, and more certainty, none of which ever quite arrives.

The only reliable fix is to do the most important thing first, before anything else gets a chance to dilute your energy or steal your best thinking. Not second, not after emails, first.

What is the thing you keep scheduling last that deserves to be first?

Something I think is worth sitting with before this week closes and the next one begins...

Most people measure their weeks by what they produced, what they completed, what they can point to as tangible evidence of progress. And output matters, genuinely. But it is a very incomplete picture of what a week actually was, especially when you are in a rebuilding phase where the most important work is internal and invisible and does not show up neatly on a to do list.

Did you think differently this week than you did last week?

Did you catch yourself in a pattern you wouldn't have noticed a month ago?

Did you make one choice, however small, that the version of you from before would not have made? That is progress.

So share, what was the most valuable thing this week gave you, whether or not anyone else would recognise it as valuable?

It's Friday and there is something specific I want you to do before the weekend starts that most people skip entirely!!

Write down one thing that went better this week than it has been going recently. Not the biggest win of your life, not something Instagram worthy, just one genuine moment where you showed up better than the version of yourself from two or three weeks ago would have.

The reason this matters is not sentimental. It's neurological. Your brain has a well documented negativity bias that causes it to register and retain negative experiences at roughly three times the intensity of positive ones. Which means without a deliberate practice of noticing progress your brain is almost always going to present you with a more discouraging picture of how you are doing than the reality actually warrants.

Actively registering your wins, however small, is not toxic positivity. It is correcting for a bias that is otherwise working against you every single day.

What went better this week?

I got a job!! So I'm super happy as I love the role.

Something that genuinely changed how I think about motivation and that I wanted to share the morning after last night's call because it connects directly to what we talked about.

There is a concept in behavioural psychology called behavioural activation and it directly contradicts the way most people think about motivation. The common assumption is that motivation comes first and action follows, so you wait until you feel ready, inspired, or driven enough to move. But the research consistently shows the opposite is true. Action comes first and motivation follows it.

The feeling of wanting to do something almost always arrives after you have already started doing it, not before. Which means every time you wait to feel motivated before beginning, you are waiting for something that your brain is only capable of producing once you are already in motion. You are standing outside the pool waiting to feel like swimming when the only way to feel like swimming is to get in the water.

This is not a mindset trick. It is how the brain's reward system actually works. Dopamine is released in anticipation of and during goal directed behaviour, not while you are thinking about doing it from the sofa.

Start before you feel ready. The feeling catches up.

What have you been waiting to feel ready for?

Your challenge for this week is to pick one thing you have been off track with, one goal, one habit, one routine, and commit to doing the easiest version of it every single day for the next 7 days!

Not the full version. If it is working out, go for a 20 minute walk every day. If it is your morning routine, just do the first two steps of it. If it is a work project, spend 25 minutes on it each day. That is all. The goal is to get back in motion and let the momentum build from there. At the end of the week, I want you to come back to the community and share how it went!