@her-co·Sep 11There’s something about writing a thought down that makes it harder to hide from yourself. 😭
You can spend months thinking:
“Maybe when things change…”
But writing down what you’re actually waiting for, how long you’ve been waiting, and what would need to change hits a little differently.
Sometimes the paper knows before you do. 🫠
@her-co·Sep 11Okay but… “I’ve already given so many years to this” is such a heavy sentence.
Because sometimes the question isn’t even “Do I want this marriage?”
It’s “What do I do with everything I’ve already built?”
The house. The routines. The memories. The version of you that exists inside all of it.
That distinction has been on my mind lately. 👀
@her-co·Sep 11Okay but… can we talk about how “Do I still love him?” is actually NOT one question? 😭
Because sometimes it’s more like:
“Do I still love him?”
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“Do I love the life we built?”
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“Am I scared of starting over?”
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“Who tf am I without this marriage?”
…and somehow your brain puts all four into ONE giant question and expects you to have an answer by Tuesday. 😭
So I made something around that.
12 questions. About 3 minutes.
No typing. No “you should leave.” No “you should stay.”
Just answering honestly and seeing what pattern comes back.
And some of the questions are… uncomfortably specific. 👀
I’m curious which one would get you:
A. The Life Holder
B. The Last-Hope Woman
C. The Woman Afraid of After
D. The Woman Who Knows
E. The Woman in the Middle
No need to tell anyone your answers. 😂
